Straight answers, up front.

It puts your phone use beside the parts of life it might be affecting: your sleep, your movement, and the time you commit in your calendar. On the nights your phone stayed up late, did you sleep less? How much of a workout was the phone actually in? On your busiest days, did your attention hold? ThirdLife only reports a difference when it is big enough to trust, and where the data is thin it says nothing rather than guessing.

Straight away. ThirdLife reads the past month from Apple's Screen Time and from Apple Health, so on your first day you already have a month of scores, charts and findings to look at, not an empty app waiting to fill up. Phone × Life can compare your heavy phone nights against your quiet ones from the start, because the history for both is already there. What builds from the day you install is your streaks and milestones, which start counting when you do.

Phone behaviour, not the life domain itself. Connect scores whether your phone time with people was conversation or passive scrolling. Balance scores the mix of active and passive use. Focus scores whether your attention held or fragmented. Rest scores how quiet your phone was around sleep, measured against your actual sleep window. Each ring starts the day whole. Healthy phone activity lifts it, and the patterns that work against it wear it down, so a low Rest score means your phone was busy when you were meant to be asleep, not that you slept badly.

Because Apple's Screen Time reports how long you spent in an app, not what you were doing inside it. A lecture and an hour of shorts look identical from the outside, and the same is true across the board: Facebook holds communities and learning, Instagram holds the people you actually know, YouTube holds repair guides and university courses. None of those apps expose the difference, so no app built on Screen Time can know it. Rather than pretend otherwise, ThirdLife shows you the shape of your activity and leaves the meaning to you. If a heavy day was heavy for a good reason, you are the only one who can say so. We give you the shape of your activity. What it meant is yours to judge.

In ThirdLife, go to You, then Sleep window. If you wear a sleep tracker that writes to Apple Health, ThirdLife can also read your actual sleep and compare your nights with your phone use.

No. Your screen time, your scores and your findings are all worked out on the device and never sent anywhere. There is no account and no server holding your usage. This is not a policy we could quietly change: Apple's Screen Time framework is built so that app names and usage cannot leave your phone in the first place. The only exception is your name and email, if you choose to give them, so we can send a short monthly note on what's new. Nothing about your usage travels with it, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

ThirdLife needs it on. It is Apple's own setting, and with it off your phone records nothing for any app to read, including this one. You can turn it on in Settings, Screen Time, App & Website Activity. Turning it on does not send anything to us.

Not in the usual sense. ThirdLife does not filter content, read messages or track location, and seeing your child's scores on your phone does not block anything on theirs. It is built to help you understand how their phone fits around school, bedtime and the rest of the day. If you also install ThirdLife on your child's phone, you can set limits there behind a passcode.

Apple's Screen Time records how long each app was used. ThirdLife reads that same record and adds the context: a score out of 100 for the day, how much of the school day and the hours after bedtime the phone was part of, and findings graded by how much they matter, with the apps and the days named.

If your child is in your Family Sharing group with Screen Time turned on, they appear in ThirdLife on your phone automatically. There is no family mode to switch on. You will see a pill at the top of Overview and Phone × Life next to "Me" with their name on it. Tap it to see their day, and Insights follows your choice. Seeing your children is part of Premium, free for 14 days.

Two things, both in your iPhone's own settings rather than in ThirdLife. First, add your child to your Family Sharing group: open Settings, tap your name, then Family, and add your child or create a child account for them. Second, turn on Screen Time for them: in the same Family settings, tap your child's name, then Screen Time, and turn it on. That is what lets their Screen Time reach your phone, and ThirdLife reads it from there. Menu names vary slightly between iOS versions.

No. You see their scores on your phone without installing anything on theirs. If you would like them to have their own view, install ThirdLife on their phone and choose "My child's phone" during setup. You set a passcode that protects the things you configure.

Check three things. Screen Time is turned on for your child, under Settings, Family, your child, then Screen Time. They are set up as a child in your Family Sharing group. And their phone has been used today, because a child appears once their Screen Time for the day has reached your phone, which can take a little while. If you can see their pill but tapping it shows a locked card, seeing children's scores needs Premium.

Set their bedtime and school hours. In ThirdLife, go to You, then Children's bedtimes and school hours, add each child, and enter their first name exactly as it appears on their scores. Capitals do not matter. Then choose their bedtime, wake time and school hours. Their Rest ring is scored against that bedtime, and Phone × Life shows their Sleep and School views. If a name does not match, their Phone × Life will tell you which name to use.

Rest needs a bedtime. Set it in You, then Children's bedtimes and school hours, and their past month is scored straight away. Connect is only scored for children on days with at least five minutes of messaging or calls, so a day without either is not counted against them.

Yes. Any parent or guardian in your Family Sharing group can see the children in ThirdLife on their own phone. Premium is shared through Apple's Family Sharing, so one subscription covers everyone in the group rather than one each.

You can see their four scores, their insights, their sleep and school days, an hour by hour view of their day, and which apps they used and for how long. You cannot see their messages, what they looked at inside an app, their browsing, or where they have been. ThirdLife only sees what Screen Time records, and none of it is sent to us.

If they have ThirdLife on their phone, it tells them plainly that their parent can see their scores and the apps they used. Either way, we suggest telling them, and looking at it together.

For the phone side, no. Your scores, your reads, your milestones and your limits all work on the phone alone. Phone × Life is where a wearable matters. Sleep, workouts and time in daylight come from what your watch or ring records into Apple Health, so those findings need one. Steps come from the phone itself. Connect what you have, and ThirdLife works with it.

Your iPhone, your iPad, or everything at once. Screen Time reports activity across the devices signed into your Apple ID, so ThirdLife can read all of them. There's a device picker at the top of the screen: look at one on its own, or switch to all devices for the full picture. If you work on an iPad and scroll on a phone, the combined view is the honest one.

Yes, and it is close. The iPad version is largely built. What remains is store assets and the listing rather than engineering, so it should not be far away. In the meantime, your iPad's activity already appears in the iPhone app through the device picker, so nothing is missing from your scores.

We'd like to build one, and it's something we're planning for. There's no date to share yet, but if you want an Android version, tell us at info@thirdlifeapp.com and we'll count you.

ThirdLife is free to use, with a paid tier for the deeper features. Seeing is free; acting is paid. Full details are on the pricing page.